Which brings me to the horrifying existence of hymen reconstruction, also known as hymenoplasty. Hymen reconstruction, as its title insinuates, is the reconstructing of the hymen, a thin membrane that protects the opening of the vagina. This can be done by sewing together a torn hymen or inserting a hymen implant. If you are already disturbed, you should be.
As always, I did a little research before sitting down to write this and here's what I found on a site called "Revirgination". It is a great summary of the reasons people pursue this procedure.
"The virginity of a woman is valued for religious, social, and even economic reasons. Hymen gets disrupted after the first intercourse or even after strenuous physical activity or tampon use. Anyway, you wouldn't want your boyfriend / future husband feel ashamed because your hymen no longer existed."
I'm going to just dig right into this one and expose it for the bullshit that it is. First of all the term virginity is almost always used in the wrong context. Has anyone ever met someone that engages in oral/anal sex only and still refers to them self as a virgin? Fail. You are a virgin if you have not chosen to have sex. So to clarify, a survivor of rape is indeed still a virgin because they did not CHOOSE to engage in sexual activity.
They make a good point that virginity is indeed valued for various reasons, especially religious ones. And I hate to burst anyone's bubble, but if you've already has sex, I think God knows about it and can't be fooled by a fake or restored hymen. Sorry.
But I don't think people are that naive. And this brings us to the stressed point of the website "You wouldn't want your boyfriend/future husband to feel ashamed because your hymen no longer existed". And we have reached the root of the problem. Get your vagina "fixed" to please your man and avoid embarrassing him. Male privilege at its finest. The most obvious hypocrisy found on the site is that they acknowledge that a woman's hymen can be disrupted after strenuous physical activity or tampon usage, but still refer to the hymen as a "representation of virginity". It's not. Fools. And to take this a step further, who needs their virginity validated and/or represented anyway? Why isn't "I'm a virgin" enough? And can someone please help me figure out how this works... do you lie to your partner about being a virgin and THEN get a hymenoplasty? Or do you make the decision to give him an authentic "virgin" experience by having the procedure? In the former case you should probably reevaluate your relationship with your potential sex partner if you feel the need to lie about your sexual history. In the latter case, is the pain and money worth it? Think about it. Your partner is going to tear through it anyway, potentially causing you ADDITIONAL pain and essentially wasting hundreds to thousands of dollars on something you only got to use once. Also it doesn't even tighten your vagina*** so it really is a one time deal for the "virginity experience". I don't know about you, but I'd much rather have those Marc Jacob boots!
The point I'm trying to make is that you shouldn't alter your body for anyone's sake but your own. If your boyfriend/husband suggests bigger boobs (preferably willing to pay for them as well) and you think "Hey I guess an extra cup would be cool" then go right ahead! But not for the sake of avoiding his "embarrassment" or keeping up a lie that you probably shouldn't have told in the first place.
***If you are interested in tightening your vagina there are products that can do the trick, and for only 10 bucks! Or if you want to do it the old fashion way, a few caps of vinegar in your bath water will do fine. Your partner will appreciate it. But you didn't hear that from me...