Tuesday, September 7, 2010

What we can all learn from Kat Stacks

These days, anyone even slightly familiar with the hip hop game has heard of and/or is commenting on this woman known as Kat Stacks. A little bit of brief info for those who don't know. This is Kat Stacks.

She is a hip hop groupie who has set the internet on fire by exposing her sexual rendezvous with various rappers. Now we've seen this before, reference Karrine Steffans, but there is something very different about Kat Stacks approach. Check this video out and get a taste of what I mean...

Now before I share my own personal opinion about her "career" I think that there are some other very important issues that need to be addressed.

1. Kat Stacks has admitted to having UNPROTECTED sex with some of her partners on multiple occasions. Need I say more? So today, doing research for this post, I caught wind on the net that Ms. Stacks is allegedly HIV positive. My first thought... I can see that. There is nothing funny or entertaining about this woman. Kat Stacks is having sex with men she doesn't even respect and what that tells me is that underneath those bangs and implants there is a woman harboring a deeply felt hatred for people in her heart. Being infected with HIV can cause some people to become that way. Thats a hard pill to swallow. I hope that these allegations are not true and I hope even more that she is keeping up on her status and begins to make more responsible decisions by using condoms.

2. The Kat Stacks controversy has really got me thinking... DO ANY OF YOU RAPPERS HAVE ANY FUCKING SENSE? So she's exposing numbers, airing videos, and ya'll still getting up with her?? FOOLS! And if she is HIV positive lets consider which one of you could have GIVEN it to her, which one of you could have GOTTEN it from her and could be GIVING it to other people. With Kat Stack's rap sheet do you idiots realize you could be contributing to an industry wide health hazard? #comeonson

Now before any of you think that I am a Kat Stacks fan or supporter...

I think she has a wonderful opportunity to be a great investigative journalist, or at least a very successful escort (and I am not saying that one is better than the other one) however she is completely throwing both of these opportunities down the drain. For example, she's wasting the majority of her 15 minutes of fame on D list rappers that no one cares about. When you can tell me all the naughty things Jay has to say about Beyonce, you'll have my attention.

There is a much better and more lucrative way to handle her "career" but honestly, she is a sucker for the glitz and glamour. She could have a much more consistent income by sleeping with these men and keeping it private. She wants her face on the screen and its sadly going to be her demise. Don't believe me? Watch this...

This is not the only time hands have been laid on her. Seriously, if you want to make a career of "outing" celebrities, get some better bodyguards, know how to throw some hands, start carrying a gun, or something!!!! Dummy. Always be able to back your shit up and create a safety net for yourself.

Now supposedly Kat Stacks has a book scheduled to be released in December, you've heard her speak... her poor editor.

The point I'm trying to make is that I don't knock anyone's hustle, as long as it's safe, not hurting anyone, and not putting you or anyone else in danger unnecessarily. It is not her job to be a role model to people's kids or any of that bullshit. But your type of reckless behavior is the type of thing that can lead women trying to play your game to the grave.... if you don't beat them to it.

So what can all of us ladies learn from Kat Stacks? STEP YOUR PUSSY GAME UP!!!!!! The end.

Other Side of the Game

For me personally, one of the hardest parts of being bad is being able to acknowledge and confront my shortcomings and weak points. I realized that owning this blog makes it especially important to be able to do this because I can't emphasize enough that being bad has nothing to do with being perfect, or even trying to be. As I mentioned in a previous post, I'm not the baddest. I'm far from it. So here is my list.

#1 It is sooo hard for me to sit with uncomfortable feelings. That has led me to be for the most part unemotional and borderline insensitive. Truth is that theory and practice sometimes conflict and when my personal ideologies conflict with how I feel, I find my emotions and the emotions of others, unjustifiable. I didn't realize this until I observed that on the rare occasions when I hurt I keep it to myself and when I cry I do so alone. My friends have been trying to tell me this for a while but...

#2 I don't receive negative feedback well. To be honest, I don't receive positive feedback well either. I might say I do, and it might seem like I do, but I don't. It makes me uncomfortable and because of #1 its easier for me to just dismiss it.

#3 Despite all of my experiences, good and bad, I still maintain and irresistible and inexplainable attraction to the wrong men. This one scares me to death because even the smallest fusion of two very intricately designed lives is potentially catastrophic, or possibly perfect. And it can change the course of history. It's dangerous.

#4 Self discipline... what is that?

#5 This one is very important because it took me 30 minutes to even decide whether or not it should go on the list. I realized that the fact that I needed to have a debate about it meant it did. I could SERIOUSLY use a nice, heaping dose of humility. My best friend has been trying to tell me this for years. And to be honest, I'm terrified of who or what is going to deliver it to me.

#6 A nasty habit I've developed is neglecting the fact that I was not always as confident as I am today. And doing so is a slap in the face to people who still find themselves debilitated by their own insecurities.

#7 It is so important to me that people "understand" me, but sometimes I have such a hard time "understanding" others. Furthermore, I'm grappling with the idea that the concept of "understanding" someone is rarely attainable in the first place.

#8 I can admit it... Sometimes I need to shut the fuck up and LISTEN!

#9 I'm not as bad as I say I am.

#10 Finally, I'm actually badder than I say I am and I have to start owning that responsibility.

Thank you for listening. (#11 I need to express my gratitude more often.)